Your First Session

Your first session with Madame Lockwood, what you need to know and understand.

If you are considering your first session with me, it is completely normal to feel unsure or nervous about what to expect, and what might happen. You may not have any experience at all, or you may have BDSM experience but never with a professional Dominatrix.

Perhaps you have years of experience with a professional Dominatrix, as well as alone or with play partners, yet your still a little nervous. That is because you know and understand each Dominatrix works to their own rules. Either way, you do not need to arrive knowing everything, and you are not expected to have years of experience. All you need to do is arrive and follow my rules and protocol.

What I expect from you, is that you approach me properly in the first place. Read the information I have provided within my website, as well as my social media platforms, communicate honestly and above all listen to my instructions. Your experience level is not the thing I am most interested in.

Anyone can claim years of experience, yet still be unsuitable for me, due to their previous experience in BDSM, while someone with very little experience can be more respectful, curious, willing to learn and actually listen to my instructions, rather than compare me to another Dominatrix.

There is a considerable difference between experience and attitude.

Before you even arrive at my dungeon, there will have been communication between us. Your screening application gives me an initial idea of who you are, what you are looking for, your experience and any relevant interests or limits. It also gives you an opportunity to tell me to tell me what you are hoping to experience and ask any questions you may have. I would much rather discuss something beforehand than have either of us make assumptions that are incorrect.

I also expect you to have read all the information on my website, before you submit a screening application form. I appreciate there is a lot of information to read, there is a reason for that.

I explan how I work, What I expect from you, how my screening process works, and what you need to do if you want to approach me. Reading this information is part of the process. It also means that when you do finally contact me, you already have a reasonable idea of who you are approaching rather than simply finding a photograph or profile online and sending a blind message because you like what you see.

Every person I see is different, which in turn means each session is different. I do not work from a script, and I am not interested in simply looking at a list of interests or activities and working through them one by one, just because someone has ticked a few boxes on an application form. Your interests matter, obviousily, but so do your limits, experience, attitude, expectations, and the dynamic that develops between us.

Communication is importatant throughout the session too. Being submissive does not mean you lose the ability to communicate with me, and I can interpret your body language, but I can't read your mind. If at any time you are unsure about something, tell me. If something is challenging you, but you are still comfortable to continue, I need to understand that too.

There is a clear difference between being challenged, and something genuinely not being okay. Good, clear communication is how we understand and acknowledge the difference.

Your boundaries do not disappear simply because you have chosen to submit to me either. They are discussed, beforehand, understood, and respected. Professional domination is not about a Domme doing whatever she pleases, with no care or consideration to the person in front of her, despite what you may think and feel.

There is a great deal that happens behind the scenes, before a session ever begins, and much of it would never make an interesting photograph or social media post, that does not make it any less important to the experience.

You may also find that when you finally meet me, it's not quite what you expected. Social media can give you an impression, but it is only an impression. You see my photgraphs, videos, posts, and selected moments, you do not see the converstaions, the screening applications, the planning and preperation involved, or the person kneeling in front of me for the duration of a whole session.

I have written about this before.

Yes your first session with me, may be very intense, exciting, challenging, nerve-wracking, or probably a comination of those feelings and more. Sometimes you learn more about yourself by actually experiencing something you never thought you could, just by thinking about it on the other side of a screen.

When the session ends, the aftercare continues. Each person reacts differently, checking in with you after the session is important, especially if the session has challanged you. Your fist session, is simply that. Your first session.

This is what a first session should be about.

Not trying to prove yourself, but finding out whether the dynamic between us is the right dynamic for us.

Madame Lockwood.